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Sarah's mom
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Username: Sarahs_mom
Post Number: 2
Registered: 02-2009
| | Posted on Wednesday, February 18, 2009 - 02:55 pm: | 
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is so excruciating! 2 years since Sarah has died and the pain is an intense as ever. Maybe even more so now that the shock and numbness have gone away.
I found this web site today and am so glad. I often feel that the special people who give their organs are forgotten about while the recipients are the "hero's" in all of this. Don't get me wrong....I'm truly happy for them. I just don't want my daughter and her generosity to be overlooked or forgotten.
2 years ago yesterday was her accident, today they officially declared her brain dead, tomorrow the organ surgery occurred.....it's a full 7 days of reliving a horrific nightmare.
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CJ
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Username: Still_standing
Post Number: 92
Registered: 11-2008
| | Posted on Wednesday, February 18, 2009 - 04:35 pm: |
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Sarahs mom:
I can't begin to imagine the pain of losing a child. I'm a recipient so I don't know what it feels like to be a donor family. I do know what it feels like to lose a family member suddenly and unexpectedly.
I'm so sorry you are struggling with this. I wish I had the right words to take your pain away or lessen it. The only thing I have learned from a sudden death in the family is that time helps some..... I can go along and be fine and something will make me think of my father and it's like getting hit with it fresh all over again.
I firmly believe that the people we love in life are on loan to us. When God is ready he can take them whenever he wants. I think that what we have left are beautiful memories and somewhere in the grief and the longing for the person we loved so much we have to realize what a very special gift they were to us and that now all that is left is for us to carry them in our hearts.
I hope you find peace and I hope you hear from Janet and other donor families who can identify with what you are going through.
What your daughter did by donating was a beautiful thing. Without people like her and families like you people like me as well as many others here would not have received our second chance at life. What a beautiful gift she left to people who were fighting to survive.
I will pray for peace for you and I'm so sorry you had to experience this devastating loss.
CJ
CJ
Liver Transplant
3/1/08
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Christena's Dad
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Username: Christenas_dad
Post Number: 124
Registered: 01-2009
| | Posted on Wednesday, February 18, 2009 - 04:52 pm: |
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Dear Sarah's Mom,
I am so sorry that you are going through this pain. I can see by the light in her eyes that your daughter was a wonderful person, a beautiful young lady for whom any parent would be proud. I am sure there are few words that could lessen the grief you feel on this anniversary of her passing. But I would like to offer two -- Thank You.
I am the father of a 20-year old who was given the gift of life 3.5 years ago. Christena's donor was another beautiful young girl named Amber who passed away after an automobile accident. Why my daughter was able to live and Amber's life cut short -- only God knows the answer. And all I can say to Amber's parents is thank you for thinking of others in their time of grief.
As you wrote on another thread, Sarah was able to give the gift of life to Alex -- and perhaps others. Joy for another family came at the grief experienced by yours. But rest assured that Sarah's life was not in vain, and her spirit lives on. Sarah lives not only in those who received her organs, but also in all of those people who will be touched by the recipients throughout their lives. Sarah lives on in the parents and families, the friends and relatives. She lives in the wonders that her recipients will experience and the contributions they will make. You and Sarah gave the most God-like gift that we can give, and I am humbled that in your time of grief, you were able to help others. You and Sarah, and Amber and Joe and Kari and Cory and so many others are our heroes.
And I sincerely thank you.
I am glad you have found our little space on the internet. And I hope you come back and visit often. You will find caring and compassionate recipients, living donors and the families of donors who like Sarah, gave someone else the chance to live.
I will think of Sarah today, and when I do, I will think of her beautiful smile and her shining eyes and I will thank God that in her time of leaving this world for a better place, she was able to gives others their chance at a more beautiful life.
You take care of yourself, Sarah's Mom and I hope you have a great day.
Christenas Dad
Father of Double Lung Recipient at St. Louis Childrens Hospital June 2005
Kentucky, USA
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Sarah's mom
Member
Username: Sarahs_mom
Post Number: 4
Registered: 02-2009
| | Posted on Wednesday, February 18, 2009 - 05:25 pm: |
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I walked away from the computer for a while and when I came back & re-read my earlier post.....
I sound like a whiny baby. and I'm sorry for that. Sometimes it's just so easy to feel sorry for myself and especially for Sarah that things come out sounding wrong.
Sorry and please bare with me.
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BreathinSteven
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Username: Breathinsteven
Post Number: 1472
Registered: 11-2004
| | Posted on Wednesday, February 18, 2009 - 07:16 pm: |
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Hey Sarah's Mom...
Don't even think about sounding "whiny"... Sarah is absolutely beautiful -- I'm sorry she graced this Earth for such a short time...
I understand your feeling sometimes about recipients seeming like the heroes -- I don't think you'll find that here... Yes -- we have a lot to talk about in dealing with our own diseases -- and post transplant, most of us are still dealing with issues... If not from our underlying diseases, then from new issues related to transplant care... But for so many of us -- there is always an undercurrent of awe surrounding the donors, and donor families who gave us life...
Sarah was absolutely beautiful -- I know her smile is living on in others... My donor's name was Kari -- her smile was like Sarah's... Beyond my wife -- honoring Kari is the most important thing in my life... Honoring people like Sarah and her Mom is up there right next to that...
The Sarah's and the Kari's are heroes to me, and to so many of us... I've been through a lot in my life -- some things very difficult, and some very good... But nothing ever prepared me for the gift Kari gave me... The rest of my life is dedicated to her, and that feels very right to me... Sarah is a hero in the exact same way...
I've been breathing with Kari's beautiful lungs for almost nine years... Like the pain you are wading through -- I think of Kari's Mom and Dad every single day -- I can be sitting alone, or walking down a street, and break into sobs because their pain hurts me too -- but never like it does them, or you... I would give anything to be able to hug her...
You take care... I hope you make regular visits to us... Like Sarah's recipients would, if they knew of her, I find I miss Kari desperately... But in two days, I get to hug five of her friends and volleyball teammates -- I get to be with them, and listen to them laugh and talk and share stories as if they were sitting next to her yesterday... It's been almost nine years -- I made a personal pledge to myself, for her Mom, that I would keep Kari in her friends hearts forever... When I'm with them -- I realize that they don't need me -- with or without me, she'll be alive in their hearts forever...
Love, Steve
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Jeff
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Username: Jeff
Post Number: 1726
Registered: 07-2007
| | Posted on Wednesday, February 18, 2009 - 07:35 pm: |
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Sarah's Mom, as I am not a parent, I cannot pretend to comprehend how you must feel and what you have been through. Sarah giving the gift of life to others was a beautiful thing. As a kidney recipient, I certainly don't feel like a "hero", just the one of the luckiest guys in the world. I was one of 4 family members to receive a transplant, mine from my sister, the others from deceased donors. I can promise you one thing, donors certainly won't be forgotten in my family and will always be looked at as the true heroes. My sister probably doesn't feel that way, she was just helping her brother live, I know a few donors here don't feel like heroes either, but that certainly won't change my opinion of them.
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Karen R.
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Username: Relivkaren
Post Number: 2587
Registered: 07-2007
| | Posted on Wednesday, February 18, 2009 - 08:25 pm: |
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Dear Sarah's Mom:
As I read your post, I cried. The pain that you feel right now must be unexplainable. I am so sorry that your beautiful daughter was taken from you way too early. There is nothing I can say to take away that pain, but I can tell you that Sarah is the hero. She saved several people's lives - one of them little Alex. You are the hero for seeing through your grief to allow your daughter to save other's lives.
I am glad that you found Transplant Buddies today. I think God lead you here to find people that understand about organ donation. This site is made up of living donors, donor families. recipients, care givers, and other friends touched by organ donation. While not all of us understand your pain of loss, we do understand the truly heroic gift that you have given to save another person's life.
I sincerely hope that you continue to visit us here at Transplant Buddies. It is a wonderful community of very caring people. Your daughter takes a place of high honor here and so do you!
God Bless!
Karen
Dx: BOOP - May 2006. Rediagnosed with Bronchiolitis Obliterans Nov. 2006
Listed Feb 2008 - Double Lung at Cleveland Clinic
Ohio, USA
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Sarah's mom
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Username: Sarahs_mom
Post Number: 5
Registered: 02-2009
| | Posted on Wednesday, February 18, 2009 - 08:40 pm: |
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Thank you all so much for your kind words and caring thoughts. If I say the wrong things on here, please forgive me. I am struggling and my mind is confused. I honestly don't know how people survive a loss as enormous as this. Sarah and I had a very strong connection. 2 years ago right now they were telling us that the brain blood flow test came back with the worst results.....zero blood was getting thru to her brain. I am reliving it all minute by minute. That's what the mind does....I can't help it.
Thank you all again for responding to my earlier post. I read and reread them over and over again to try to absorb your compassion and strength.
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becksmom
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Username: Becksmom
Post Number: 769
Registered: 02-2007
| | Posted on Thursday, February 19, 2009 - 02:14 am: |
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Dear Sarah's Mom,
Thank you for your heartfelt sharing on this most difficult day. Thank you for sharing the beautiful picture of your beloved daughter. I echo the sentiments of the others who have posted, that Sarah was way too young to leave and that she (and your family) have given the most precious gift, the gift of life to others.
You don't ever need to apologize here... for any feelings you have. You'll see that many of us come to feel like a family. We are all brought together in some way by transplants.
My daughter, Beck, will eventually have a pancreas transplant. She got a kidney from her Dad in August 2007. I think often about the reality that someone's loved one will die... in order for my daughter to live. I will hope that when the time is right, that family will share with us about their loved one, so that we may truly honor their gift of life. That we will be able to thank them, each year... on that day that is so difficult for them... but a blessing for us.
Please know that by sharing Sarah's story, all of us who have read it will be forever touched and we too will carry her with us in our hearts!
hugs and much love, kathy
PS - When I first joined this site, before Beck's transplant, and during the surgeries for Beck and her Dad, I carried some of the posts/comments with me for strength and comfort... and rereading them worked!
becksmom-Kathy
Beck received kidney on 8/23/07 from Dad at UCSF. Pancreas to follow soon...
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Cass
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Username: Cassq
Post Number: 648
Registered: 06-2006
| | Posted on Thursday, February 19, 2009 - 02:18 am: |
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Love you, Sarah's mom. You have been through hell already. God has a special place in heaven for you, as He did for Sarah.
Cass
Kidney donor to hubby Mike, 12/2000. St. Barnabas, Livingston, NJ
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Sarah's mom
Member
Username: Sarahs_mom
Post Number: 8
Registered: 02-2009
| | Posted on Thursday, February 19, 2009 - 09:18 am: |
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It's another day that I dread.....today is the day that they did the surgery to "harvest" ( I hate that word ) to take out her organs. (2 years ago today). I was in full blown freak out mode....just in a panic like you can't imagine. I'd lay in bed with her....and they'd come in and say there's been another delay...(it's such a complex thing to schedule). Then I got it in my head that there had been a big mistake....she was still alive in there and they were going to take out her organs! Oh man, So they did some tests again and tried to show me that she really was gone. Then finally, they came to wheel her away.......my precious girl. I still can't believe this is real. Even 2 years later, I can't believe it. Oh.... |
Heather
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Username: Heather
Post Number: 2021
Registered: 05-2003
| | Posted on Thursday, February 19, 2009 - 11:32 am: |
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I cannot imagine what you are going through. Sarah was a beautiful girl.
No way are you being whiney. You have a reason for feeling the way you do. It takes time to heal and it is different for everyone. My heart breaks for you.
I want you to know that we are all here for you and please...vent, cry, whine..whatever..it is ok. We understand and we all do these things from time to time on here. So please never hold back...it is a place where you can be real when maybe you can't or feel you can't..with family or close friends. I hope this makes sense.
Heather
Forum Leader - Living Organ Donation
EC Illinois, USA
Kidney donor to dad 12/1/99
Rush-Presbyterian-St. Lukes, Chicago
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Happy2Bhere
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Username: Happy2bhere
Post Number: 1699
Registered: 02-2008
| | Posted on Thursday, February 19, 2009 - 04:05 pm: |
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Sarah's Mom,
Hope you don't mind. I'm adding this thread link to our discussion over here on the "Donor" section. http://www.transplantbuddies.org/tbx/messages/5/36814.html?1235072810 Lit'l lady, please feel free to open your heart and share your inner feelings with us. We fully understand. As for your inquiry about my grandson, his name was Paul Edward but we called him "P.J." for Paul Jr. He lost his life accidentally with a high powered deer rifle. This happened 10 months after my heart transplant. He was an only-child. His Mom(my daughter) has gotten past the initial hurt over the past years and we speak of him quite often with much love. Just thought you might be interested.
Ol' Bob
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Sarah's mom
Member
Username: Sarahs_mom
Post Number: 17
Registered: 02-2009
| | Posted on Saturday, February 21, 2009 - 12:20 pm: |
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Bob,
I wanted to share this picture with you since I see you live in a town called Magnolia.
Sarah was half way thru her Sophomore year of High School when she was killed. She and her friends used to eat their lunch outside at a wooden deck area on the side of the school. I found a note where she was asking another friend to join them out there one day to eat because she said "It's so pretty out there and not crowded".
After her death, we planted a big magnolia tree by the lunch deck and put a round teak wood bench around it. We had a plaque made....in loving memory of..... so all the kids would know why the tree is there and always remember Sarah. On her 18th birthday a couple of weeks ago the school invited us up because her class was planting some flowers by the plaque in her honor.
Here is a picture of the tree when it was first planted (that's Jamison, too):
Sarah's mom, Kristen
Donor family
Florida, near Pensacola.
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Hostess Risa
Board Administrator
Username: Risa
Post Number: 8211
Registered: 05-2003
| | Posted on Saturday, February 21, 2009 - 03:12 pm: |
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Dear Sarah's Mom
Welcome to Transplantbuddies. I hope you keep visiting us and share your thoughts and feelings as often as you like.
You will always feel special around here. Please share your memories of Sarah and as we learn about Sarah we will learn about you. She was a gorgeous young lady.
I am glad that you found us.
God Bless You and your Family
With Love,
Risa
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Happy2Bhere
Member
Username: Happy2bhere
Post Number: 1708
Registered: 02-2008
| | Posted on Saturday, February 21, 2009 - 03:53 pm: |
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Seeing this Magnolia tree is more the reason for me to remember your daughter Sarah. I shall always think of her when I see a Magnolia tree in my area. This is a wonderful tribute to your beloved daughter.
My British friends Bryan & Sue also planted a "Remembrance" tree in honor of their son Andrew there in England. See attached pic with Andrew's Dad Bryan with tree on the 2nd anniversary of Andrew's death. 
Ol' Bob
P.S. Have you ever seen young Alex's website? I will post it below with my favorite pic of Alex. Your son Jamison is now the same age that Alex was when he was hooked up to a Berlin Heart Pump shortly before he rec'd Sarah's "Gift of Life".
God Bless
Ol' Bob
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Happy2Bhere
Member
Username: Happy2bhere
Post Number: 1709
Registered: 02-2008
| | Posted on Saturday, February 21, 2009 - 04:19 pm: |
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Alex and his Mom Liz and Alex's website. http://alexzanderwood.com/index.html 
Ol' Bob
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Sarah's mom
Member
Username: Sarahs_mom
Post Number: 18
Registered: 02-2009
| | Posted on Saturday, February 21, 2009 - 05:28 pm: |
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So this picture was taken after he got his new heart?
Sarahs mom, Kristen
Donor family
Florida, near Pensacola.
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Happy2Bhere
Member
Username: Happy2bhere
Post Number: 1710
Registered: 02-2008
| | Posted on Saturday, February 21, 2009 - 07:35 pm: |
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Yes, this pic was made post transplant. Hope you don't mind me posting various pics of young Alex. He was even transported to his home in a very long limo after being released from the hospital. 
I hope that you get to meet this young fellow and his loving family in the near future. I hope to meet them in the future if God is willing. I would also love to meet you and your family, lit'l lady. It's a very long way from Texas to Florida, 'specially on retirement income. <smiling>
Ol' Bob
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Hostess Risa
Board Administrator
Username: Risa
Post Number: 8219
Registered: 05-2003
| | Posted on Saturday, February 21, 2009 - 08:25 pm: |
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Dear Sarah's Mom
I am so filled with emotion for you no words can flow at this moment. The more you can share with us, the better.
With LOVE
Risa
Thank you for joining us. I hope you become part of our family.
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Janet
Member
Username: Jan
Post Number: 307
Registered: 05-2003
| | Posted on Saturday, February 21, 2009 - 09:33 pm: |
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Sarah's Mom.....I am so so sorry for the loss of your beautiful daughter. I am also sorry that I have not been on the computer the last couple of days, so that I could greet you. But, it looks as though all of the others have done a wonderful job of welcoming you here. I too am a donor family member. My son, Joe, died 14 years ago, when he was 14 yrs old. As I have read your posts, I saw myself all those years ago, going through the same things as you described. Losing a child is one of the hardest things a person will ever experience. It just isn't in the 'normal realm of things'.
I am so sorry for the reason you are here...but also glad that you were able to find this place....it is a wonderful place for a donor family member to be. Our loved ones will NEVER be forgotten here....NEVER!!
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Sarah's mom
Member
Username: Sarahs_mom
Post Number: 21
Registered: 02-2009
| | Posted on Saturday, February 21, 2009 - 10:38 pm: |
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Janet,
I've been hoping to connect with you. Bob has filled me in and led me to the site about Joe.....which I read from start to finish, of course. I'm very sorry.
I'm having a rough night, so I'll make this short. But I hope to "talk" with you soon. I am so glad to have found this site. I cling to every word like a lifeline, literally.
That Bob is really something, isn't he? Special human being. Why don't you ALL come over for dinner tomorrow and we'll sit out back and have a cook-out and talk, talk, talk!
xo
Sarahs mom, Kristen
Donor family
Florida, near Pensacola.
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Janet
Member
Username: Jan
Post Number: 309
Registered: 05-2003
| | Posted on Saturday, February 21, 2009 - 11:09 pm: |
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Kristen, I am glad that you were able to find this site....they are all such wonderful people here. I have belonged to the site since almost the beginning of it....but it wasn't until this past year that I have been VERY active in posting. I missed out on so much along the way without being here more...but my wonderful friend Bob, always would keep me posted on things happening on the board. I think I relied on him keeping me posted all the time. He is something, isn't he?? Bob is on my 'to do list'...or 'bucket list' as it is referred to. I want to meet Bob in person before I leave this earth. He has been such a wonderful inspiration to me that my life will not be complete without meeting him in person.
Where do you live?? I wish we could all come on over and have a cookout and just talk...we could talk for weeks and still have more to say!!!
And Bob...I didn't realize your grandson and Joe had the same middle name. Edward.....he was named after my favorite Uncle Ed.
Hang in there Kristen...this grief journey is one of the longest hardest jobs that you will ever have to do....don't be afraid to share with others....it is through sharing your story over and over again that you will begin to heal little by little....small baby steps mostly....we are here for you when you need us.
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Sarah's mom
Member
Username: Sarahs_mom
Post Number: 23
Registered: 02-2009
| | Posted on Sunday, February 22, 2009 - 01:11 pm: |
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Hello Janet, Bob and everyone,
Guess what my husband's name is? Edward. ha ha. He goes by Eddie. (He is Sarah's stepfather, but he's been with us since she was 4 and loves her like she is his own.)
We live in Gulf Breeze Fl....it's near Pensacola...less than an hour from the Alabama line. The beach is less than 10 minutes and it is beautiful. As I read about Joe's accident, Janet, I thought of the drownings that happen at the beach occassionally.....it always seems to be the one who goes in to rescue that loses their life, not the one originally in trouble. What an amazing young man Joe must have been. My heart just hurts for these young people who had to leave us so soon. My own capacity to feel compassion for others has grown immensely thru all of this. What ever happened to the girl that he went in after? I hope you don't mind me asking.
How do you guys know which posts to read? There's too many to read thru them all and try to find the ones that are relevant to you, aren't there? Is there some trick to this that I'm missing? It took me a long time to find this one from Janet again that I'd read really quick last night and I wanted to read it again but couldn't remember where it was!
xo
Sarahs mom, Kristen
Donor family
Florida, near Pensacola.
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Happy2Bhere
Member
Username: Happy2bhere
Post Number: 1718
Registered: 02-2008
| | Posted on Sunday, February 22, 2009 - 03:33 pm: |
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Kristen(Sarah's Mom),
I'm sure that my dear friend Janet won't mind. I want to share with you, her pride and joy. She created a Teddy Bear using clothe from one of Joe's shirts (see this shirt in framed pic in the background of this framed photo). She calls this cute Teddy Bear "Joe Bear". 
She has created many various Teddy Bears since this. She is a very loving, compassionate Mom. I hope she takes the time to tell you about her Donor Quilt involvement. I saw one of her Donor Quilts at the 2006 Transplant Games in Louisville Ky.
News Flash !! I just this moment 1:30pm Texas time/ 7:30pm UK time, rec'd a phone call from our pal Andy Cook of England. He has become a wonderful friend these past few years. Cheers to you, my dear friend Andy,
Ol' Bob
Ol' Bob
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Sarah's mom
Member
Username: Sarahs_mom
Post Number: 24
Registered: 02-2009
| | Posted on Sunday, February 22, 2009 - 04:42 pm: |
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Ok, this is starting to get weird (in a good way tho). Everything you guys bring up.....I am right there with you. Check this out....
and yes it's name is, Sarah Bear. I'm not kidding.
Sarahs mom, Kristen
Donor family
Florida, near Pensacola.
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Sarah's mom
Member
Username: Sarahs_mom
Post Number: 25
Registered: 02-2009
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and this is one of our favorite pictures of Sarah. This is her main picture on her MySpace page (which she was on all the time). See THE SHIRT?
Her Grandma Linda makes the bears.
Sarahs mom, Kristen
Donor family
Florida, near Pensacola.
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Happy2Bhere
Member
Username: Happy2bhere
Post Number: 1719
Registered: 02-2008
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I absolutely enjoy sharing these various stories with you, Kristen. This truly warms my heart.
I just this moment spoke with the Mom of my teenage heart recipient pal Shawn Middleton http://www.heart-transplant.co.uk/shawn.html
My transplant pals are very special to me, as are my many Donor Family members.
Ol' Bob
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Janet
Member
Username: Jan
Post Number: 312
Registered: 05-2003
| | Posted on Monday, February 23, 2009 - 01:10 am: |
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Kristen & Bob, Bob, thank you for sharing Joe with everyone....see what I mean Kristen....you never have to worry that your daughter will be forgotten here....these people are simply wonderful and they would not think of forgetting a donor or their families. And the bears, I call Joe's memory Bears, because it just made sense to do that...I have a website with them on, www.joesmemorybears.com You can visit and see a few of the bears that I have made over the last couple of years. It is such a meaningful project...I truly believe Joe brought me to doing this for others....to help to comfort them. I love your Sarah bear, it is beautiful, what a wonderful gift from Sarah's grandma....bless her heart.
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Hostess Risa
Board Administrator
Username: Risa
Post Number: 8229
Registered: 05-2003
| | Posted on Monday, February 23, 2009 - 08:17 am: |
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This thread is tugging at my heart strings in so many ways.
Janet please add your website to your signature.
Kristen, I feel a comfort for you that you found us all. I am still amazed as to how you found Bob and now you are here with us.
I love Sarah's and Joe's Bear. This is really amazing and very touching. I know what you mean when you say weird. There is a common bond being built around here.
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Happy2Bhere
Member
Username: Happy2bhere
Post Number: 1722
Registered: 02-2008
| | Posted on Monday, February 23, 2009 - 10:50 am: |
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Risa, you are absolutely correct about this amazing thread, meeting Kristen(Sarah's Mom). This thread has become very addictive to me each day. I look forward to opening this thread each morning only to discover more amazing news from Kristen and our dear friend Janet. We have explained to Kristen that the wonderful memory of her beloved daughter Sarah, will never be forgotten. You know me and my worldwide network of transplant pals and so long as I live in the future, I will strive to keep her memory in folks' hearts and minds. Many of my friends throughout the world are aware of young Alex Wood's heart transplant due to my "Peanut Butter" reputation, spreading word around and are now completely amazed to learn the identity of his very beautiful heart donor, Sarah Elizabeth. I've experienced some very amazing happenings since my own heart transplant 18yrs ago, but this chance meeting with Sarah's Mom is by far the most amazing thing to ever happen to me. I had already grown quite close to young Alex in the past several years, but to meet his heart donor's Mom was awesome. Sarah's beautiful image is now etched in my mind and heart. I myself will never forget her wonderful Gift of Life to my lit'l pal in Florida. I look forward to the glorious day that these two families meet for the very first time. I would love to be present at that time.
Oh heck !! I could go on and on and on about this. Please pardon my rattlin' on. OK?
Let us never forget Janet's son Joe, either. He was a wonderful young man.
Love you all xxx
Ol' Bob
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Hostess Risa
Board Administrator
Username: Risa
Post Number: 8234
Registered: 05-2003
| | Posted on Monday, February 23, 2009 - 10:54 am: |
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Hi Bob
Well the story will grow from here because.....there will be a visit from a very special part of Alex's family.....very soon.
Bob, you really need to write a book about your special connections.
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Janet
Member
Username: Jan
Post Number: 316
Registered: 05-2003
| | Posted on Monday, February 23, 2009 - 10:48 pm: |
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Bob, THANK YOU...you are the kindest man I have ever met...see what I told you Kristen?? As long as Bob is around, your daughter, my son, and all of the other wonderful donors of this world will never be forgotten....I promise you that this group will keep their memories alive forever.
Risa, I added Joe's memorybears to my signature, for some reason I thought I had already added that...but it was Joe's story that was on there..sorry...it's hopefully there now, if I did it right.
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Sarah's mom
Member
Username: Sarahs_mom
Post Number: 30
Registered: 02-2009
| | Posted on Wednesday, February 25, 2009 - 12:41 pm: |
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Remember the magnolia tree and bench we made as a memorial to Sarah at the High School? I posted a picture of it a few days ago....on the 21st.
I wanted to show you the special plaque that we had made to go with it. I didn't want it to be a regular bronze type plaque, although those are nice. I wanted something modern and cool...something Sarah would like. So I searched for a local artist. I remembered a festival I had been to a few years back and had picked up the artist's card that day...so I dug it out. I called her and started to tell her what I wanted to have made and she stopped me mid-sentence....."Oh, I know ALL about Sarah" she said. Which really wasn't that shocking in itself, because her accident/death was headline news for days. But she went on to tell me that she was an old friend of Sarah's dad. and she had already met me one day a long time ago.....My wedding day! She was the one who had married us on a sailboat, in the bay on a gorgeous fall day in 1989. Can you believe that? What are the chances....
So she progressed to design and create a special plaque for Sarah's tree memorial. There are 16 stones in the river....each representing a year of Sarah's life.....notice the last stone is low like that to show that Sarah only got to live 14 days in that last year. That lopped sided heart shape has become a logo for Sarah....she wore a necklace with that shape. We use it for banners, thank you cards, etc.....for the Sarah memorial scholarship which is thru the Optimist club in the high school.
Sarahs mom, Kristen
Donor family
Florida, near Pensacola.
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Happy2Bhere
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Username: Happy2bhere
Post Number: 1739
Registered: 02-2008
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Kristen, this is a beautiful memorial stone that you have chosen for Sarah, perfect for a young lady her age. I love your contributions to this site as do others who stop by to read about Sarah.
You and Janet are so much alike in remembering your beloved children. I told you that I would post pics of Janet's son Joe's memorial garden and memorial statue. Here they are: 
 Joe's Dad in pic
Janet has shared many various pics. I love seeing your pics of Sarah, also.
Ol' Bob
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Hostess Risa
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Username: Risa
Post Number: 8270
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Janet- I am glad that you added Joe's bear page
Sarah's Mom- What an amazing story and how beautiful a plaque she designed. I can tell there this artist has a loving heart.
Every time I see Sarah's beautiful picture, my heart melts. She was a beauty queen.
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Janet
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Username: Jan
Post Number: 326
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Kristen...I LOVE THE PLAQUE, it is beautiful....thank you so much for sharing it with us, and also telling us more about Sarah, she sounds like such a wonderful young lady.
And then to my surprise scrolling down...I thought, gee that place looks familiar....my house.......dahhhhhhh and the man in the picture...he looks a little bit familiar also....I get to see him an hour or so a day, (if we are lucky) since tax season started, and I spend way too much time in the office. If anyone wants to hear all the 'stories' from the garden...I can do that sometime...just ask, but I won't say that it will be a short post....ok??
We dedicated the "Angel of Hope" statue in memory of all of our children in June, 2006. It took us over three years to raise the funds through our local TCF (The Compassionate Friends) chapter. Dave and I are the York Chapter, Chapter leaders and also Eastern PA Regional Coordinators for TCF. It is dedicated to the memory of all of our children...if you google angel of Hope you will find more information on the origin of the statue...it was oringinally designed in Salt Lake City, where Dave and I saw it for the first time, and knew we had to have one in our city. It is located at the church where we hold our monthly TCF meetings. It took many people to make this project happen. But it was a dream of three ladies....Janet, Janet and Judy....the three J's as we were called....three moms on a mission to remember our children forever. The brick pavers around the base are in memory of whoever wants to remember someone. My mom, dad, dave's mom and dad, my cousin, Karen, Dave's brother, Tom, Joe, and our grandchild, Emily are all remembered in the brick pavers. We decided to open the pavers up to everyone, so that whole families could be remembered there. Still have LOTS of pavers open if anyone is interested in having one placed there.
OK>....I went on long enough...sorry...Bob,,,,,you shouldn't encourage me to rattle on like this.
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Sarah's mom
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Username: Sarahs_mom
Post Number: 36
Registered: 02-2009
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Oh wow....that's incredible about the "Angel of Hope". I was wondering if that statue was at your house, too, or what?! Ok, now I get it. That's so amazing. and oh my! at the number of losses your family has endured.
That's a lot of heart ache for one family. I'm so sorry, Janet. Do you mind me asking about Emily? What happened and how old?
I love to flower garden and would love to hear any and all garden stories that you referred to. But if I'm the only one...just email me..... I bought
my first spring flowers today....pink daisies. Everything's pink now for sissy.
I, too, go to Compassionate Friends. It's a sad, painful
hour and a half...but I have to go. I have to see people
surviving this.....because it surely doesn't feel survivable.
They just asked if I could take over
the Treasurer position. I think it's a conspiracy to get me off the couch.
Sarahs mom, Kristen
Donor family
Florida, near Pensacola.
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Alex's grandmother
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Username: Margo
Post Number: 5
Registered: 02-2009
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Dear Sarah's mom;
After reading most of your post I find we have a few things in common, my Daughters name is Elizabeth, I have another daughter we call Sissy and after reading the news paper article of Sarah's funeral find we both belong to the same church. Not earth shattering but some what of a coincidence to me. I have a dear childhood friend from Chicago that I keep in contact with each day through E mails, We have not seen each other since 1950 but have kept in touch over the years. She also had a daughter that she lost at the age of 24 and has shared those tragic days with me many times. It was because of her that our family all signed donor cards after hearing about the many people she gave a second chance to, never thinking that one day we would be on the other side of the story. I wish I could share more of her story with you and wish that you would contact me through my E mail. She was so supportive of us during Alex's wait and the fact that we could only pray that Alex could have some more time with us and enjoy more of his life knowing that someone else would have to endure the pain of loosing a loved one. How do you ask God for such a gift? She still has a rough time each time Feb. moves around and she has to relive those horrible days. So I am so glad that you found this site to be able to vent and receive the love and caring that all these people can give you. Have a good day and know that you are cared about and loved....Affectionately....Margo |
Janet
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Username: Jan
Post Number: 338
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Kristen.....Thank you for being so sweet. If you want to hear stories of Joe's garden.....let me know where you want me to start.....I don't have time right now with all the hours I am at work to write it all down at one time.....but, I will gladly do it one picture at a time over the course of some time. You know how when you go away, you try to bring something back for the people you love??? Well, many of the things in the garden are brought back from all over this wonderful country of ours and place with love in Joe's garden. I am NOT a gardener...so most of it is mulched to take care of the maintenance......low maintenance is best for me. But not the whole garden is in memory of Joe....it started out that way and 'grew' over the last 14 years.
My hubby and my brother (Joe's Godfather) did most of the work on the garden.....it was their 'labor of love' for Joe the months after his death. They say women and men process grief differently.....well they would spend all of their 'spare time' in the front yard, digging, sawing, hammering, and whatever else they had to do to create this beautiful garden. And I sat.....reminded me of you saying you are sitting on the couch.....me, I sat in my recliner....and watched them out the front window....crying...wishing my son was still here with me and wishing there was no reason for this huge garden in my front yard.
But, it started with a butterfly bush. A neighbor/ friend of my older sons' mom brought me a butterfly bush in memory of Joe shortly after his death....and told me that the butterfly represented new life....and that she had one of these and loved to watch the butterflies around it, when she received one after the death of her brother in a motorcycle accident. And she wanted to give us something that would last for a long time....so this was it. So, that is where the garden 'started'.
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Sarah's mom
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Username: Sarahs_mom
Post Number: 40
Registered: 02-2009
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When you talked about how your husband and brother were outside building and you sat inside watching and crying.....
When Sarah was killed, my husband saw a green long-necked dinosaur that Sarah liked to doodle on her art folder. He proceeded to go out back and build a big, cement, big green long-neck dinosaur. It turned out great. I didn't want a big green dinosaur in my backyard! But he took me by the hand and said, "Kristen, I JUST HAVE TO BUILD IT". and I said, Oooohhh...Ok then. I got it. His way of surviving those first few weeks. He just had to use his hands and build something for Sarah.
and I sat and watched and cried.
Sarahs mom, Kristen
Donor family
Florida, near Pensacola.
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Happy2Bhere
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Username: Happy2bhere
Post Number: 1781
Registered: 02-2008
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Kristen, I have been reading yours and Janet's recent posts about coping this the deaths of your beloved children. I myself even shed a few tears whilst reading these. Both of you Donor Mom's are absolutely wonderful. It has been said that most grown men don't cry, but this is not true at all. I can truly understand why your husband created that long-neck dinosaur.
Janet, I've always wanted to thank you for those many pics that you sent to me several years ago of Joe's garden. I still have each and everyone of them in my computer pic files, even the pics of the area where his heroic accident happened.
Both of you ladies are truly "Tops" in my books, by golly.
Ol' Bob
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Happy2Bhere
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Username: Happy2bhere
Post Number: 1789
Registered: 02-2008
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I'm sure that all of you have been quite busy this past weekend. I have plenty of idle time to spare, so I have been checking these various threads on the Compassionate Donor Families - Remembrance section every few hours all weekend. I just can't get enough of these wonderful comments on these most exciting threads.
Hope you all had a great weekend, now hurry back. OK?
Love ya'
Ol' Bob
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rose
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Username: Rose
Post Number: 170
Registered: 07-2006
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Today is the third anniversary of my sweet donor's passing. It was such a tragedy because she was only 23 years old, and I truly wish she was still on earth, even though her gift saved me.
I have a wonderful extended family in her grandmother, mother and auntie. We choose to meet last year and celebrate this wonderful young woman who chose to donate long before she died suddenly. For me, it was a deeply moving experience.
As I read what you share, Sarah's Mom, I recall what her mother said the same thing about not being forgotten. Well, they are never forgotten and I try to honor her each day in doing something positive.
Today, I will paint the kitchen! HA! But I will also call my "family" and tell them I remember.
love, Rose
Californian with a kidney Tx from Oregon Clinic, March, 2006.
Eternal gratitude to my donor. She gave 5 organs.
a rose, is a rose, is a rose.....
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Sarah's mom
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Username: Sarahs_mom
Post Number: 43
Registered: 02-2009
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Hello Rose,
The third anniversary, wow.....how is the donor family doing? I'm so glad you have such a good relationship with them and even got to meet with them. That's amazing. Thank you for calling them today to show them that you are remembering their daughter. I never knew just how must a little acknowledgment of a person's loss meant. It means the world.
You must be feeling good if you're painting the kitchen today!? Good for you!
Take care, Rose. Thank you for sharing that.....
love,
Sarah's mom
Sarahs mom, Kristen
Donor family
Florida, near Pensacola.
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rose
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Username: Rose
Post Number: 172
Registered: 07-2006
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Well, I left a phone message for my family contact member saying I was thinking of her and that I did remember.
Then kitchen looks great. I do this faux glazing technique that requires a lot of labor but has such character it is worth the effort. My hubby loves it too.
Today, I am all creaky and sore. Guess my age is a factor. I am slowing down and having secondary side effects after three years. In a few months I am going to my Clinic for a checkup to ask about some of these.
Sarah's mom, your daughter's picture is planted in my head. Your loss is beyond my comprehension because I have a daughter also and I cannot comprehend so great a pain.
May you find comfort.
Love, Rose
Californian with a kidney Tx from Oregon Clinic, March, 2006.
Eternal gratitude to my donor. She gave 5 organs.
a rose, is a rose, is a rose.....
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rose
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Username: Rose
Post Number: 173
Registered: 07-2006
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Well, I left a phone message for my family contact member saying I was thinking of her and that I did remember.
Then kitchen looks great. I do this faux glazing technique that requires a lot of labor but has such character it is worth the effort. My hubby loves it too.
Today, I am all creaky and sore. Guess my age is a factor. I am slowing down and having secondary side effects after three years. In a few months I am going to my Clinic for a checkup to ask about some of these.
Sarah's mom, your daughter's picture is planted in my head. Your loss is beyond my comprehension because I have a daughter also and I cannot comprehend so great a pain.
May you find comfort.
Love, Rose
Californian with a kidney Tx from Oregon Clinic, March, 2006.
Eternal gratitude to my donor. She gave 5 organs.
a rose, is a rose, is a rose.....
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rose
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Username: Rose
Post Number: 174
Registered: 07-2006
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Well, I left a phone message for my family contact member saying I was thinking of her and that I did remember.
Then kitchen looks great. I do this faux glazing technique that requires a lot of labor but has such character it is worth the effort. My hubby loves it too.
Today, I am all creaky and sore. Guess my age is a factor. I am slowing down and having secondary side effects after three years. In a few months I am going to my Clinic for a checkup to ask about some of these.
Kristin, your daughter's picture is planted in my head. Your loss is beyond my comprehension because I have a daughter also and I cannot comprehend so great a pain.
May you find comfort.
Love, Rose
Californian with a kidney Tx from Oregon Clinic, March, 2006.
Eternal gratitude to my donor. She gave 5 organs.
a rose, is a rose, is a rose.....
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rose
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Username: Rose
Post Number: 176
Registered: 07-2006
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Well, I left a phone message for my family contact member saying I was thinking of her and that I did remember.
Then kitchen looks great. I do this faux glazing technique that requires a lot of labor but has such character it is worth the effort. My hubby loves it too.
Today, I am all creaky and sore. Guess my age is a factor. I am slowing down and having secondary side effects after three years. In a few months I am going to my Clinic for a checkup to ask about some of these.
Kristin, your daughter's picture is planted in my head. Your loss is beyond my comprehension because I have a daughter also and I cannot comprehend so great a pain.
May you find comfort.
Love, Rose
Californian with a kidney Tx from Oregon Clinic, March, 2006.
Eternal gratitude to my donor. She gave 5 organs.
a rose, is a rose, is a rose.....
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Sarah's mom
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Username: Sarahs_mom
Post Number: 45
Registered: 02-2009
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I'm sorry to hear you are having some side effects. I don't know much about the recipient end of this, but I have heard that it's a lifelong issue with precautions, medications, etc. I think the general population sometimes thinks that one gets a new organ and viola! they are good to go. I know it's a struggle....very worthwhile, yet...a struggle. I hope your dr. can clear up some of those issues and questions for you. Are you sure you want to wait a couple of months to ask him about them? You know best.
Can I hire you to come and paint my bathrooms with your cool faux glaze technique?!!!!! I so need to do some work around here. But everything is how Sarah last saw it....and I am not ready to fix anything up for that reason. and I have no energy. I did manage a shower this morning.....so I'm doing good! I know, Rose, losing Sarah is truly beyond my comprehension, too. My brain can't get a good grasp on it.
Her aunt gave us all special roses after Sarah died. They are beautiful, pink climbing roses named, Sarah rose. So now....I keep a pink rose by her urn every day....and we scatter pink rose petals by her memorials on special occasions. Just wanted to share that because of your name.
Sarahs mom, Kristen
Donor family
Florida, near Pensacola.
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Hostess Risa
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Username: Risa
Post Number: 8344
Registered: 05-2003
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Sarah's memory lives on.... I woke up this morning seeing her picture. You see sharing your daughter with us has had a big impact on my life. I will always remember Sarah and Joe and all the other Mom's who have posted on this forum.
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Hostess Risa
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Username: Risa
Post Number: 8345
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Sarah's memory lives on.... I woke up this morning seeing her picture. You see sharing your daughter with us has had a big impact on my life. I will always remember Sarah and Joe and all the other Mom's who have shared their love ones with us.
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rose
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Username: Rose
Post Number: 177
Registered: 07-2006
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Hello, Kristen--
Today is my third anniversary of receiving my gift kidney! I am feeling better today, must have just been really tired out. I tend to forget I must pace myself a little more carefully!
I would be pleased to come paint your rooms, however, it would be quite a big trip. My daughter and her hubby live in S. Georgia so I could also pop in to visit them.
I love your Sarah Rose because I also have a couple bloomers dedicated to loved ones. It makes me sad to think of your suffering and pain. Take care of yourself and try to take little steps toward feeling better. Maybe you will need to force yourself, but do something, even once a week, that is different from your current routine. Perhaps you can find a way to honor Sarah that also makes you feel good.
I will be thinking of you.
Love, Rose
Californian with a kidney Tx from Oregon Clinic, March, 2006.
Eternal gratitude to my donor. She gave 5 organs.
a rose, is a rose, is a rose.....
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Sarah's mom
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Username: Sarahs_mom
Post Number: 50
Registered: 02-2009
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What does one say to a recipient on their anniversary date? Happy Anniversary?!! Congratulations?!!! Well, I will just say then that I'm so glad you are feeling good today and seem to be enjoying your life with your new kidney.
I did go for a walk yesterday, Thanks to Ol'Bob on here giving me a kick in the pants to get off the darn couch! I probably freaked the neighbors out because the tears were streaming while I walked....but I was strong and just kept walking.
Enjoy your anniversary day. Do you do anything like a cake? is that a weird thing to ask? sorry. but truly.....I think if it were me, I'd want cake. (of course, I always want cake).
Sarahs mom, Kristen
Donor family
Florida, near Pensacola.
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rose
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Username: Rose
Post Number: 180
Registered: 07-2006
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I am a huge cake fan! Let us eat cake! Actually, It will be a day of usual events; I am going to scrub that kitchen floor (because I CAN) and reflect upon my very blessed new life. Every time I accomplish a task that was impossible before my gift, I just feel amazed and thankful. I dont go around all mushy, its sort of a private thing for me. My husband is also so grateful to have me back to myself after so many years of sickness.
Now that you mentioned it, I think I will bake a cake, too. Chocolate, of course.
Take another walk today, and maybe, bake a cake!!
love, rose
Californian with a kidney Tx from Oregon Clinic, March, 2006.
Eternal gratitude to my donor. She gave 5 organs.
a rose, is a rose, is a rose.....
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Happy2Bhere
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Username: Happy2bhere
Post Number: 1814
Registered: 02-2008
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" Thanks to Ol'Bob on here giving me a kick in the pants to get off the darn couch!"
Hey sweet Kristen, I'm gonna' continue to remind you about these walks each day, lit'l lady. You will eventually feel much better, I promise you.
I just this moment spoke with my daughter Cindy on the phone. We were discussing the loss of her only son P.J. over 17yrs ago. Shortly after his accidental death she got permission from the cemetery owners to plant a beautiful lit'l Oak tree sapling at the head of his gravesite. That tree has grown quite a bit since. For the first several years she would carry helium filled balloons to P.J.'s grave and send them Heaven bound in remembrance of her beloved son. Cindy's mourning period lasted awhile but she is now back to her ol' happy, joyful mood. Oh, she still hurts from time to time during holidays.
I plan to post a pic of that tree in the near future. OK?
You'all have a wonderful day :o{)
Ol' Bob
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Happy2Bhere
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Username: Happy2bhere
Post Number: 1815
Registered: 02-2008
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As for my daughter Cindy. Here's a few pics of her and P.J.'s stepdad Chuck, enjoying their grown up "Toys", purchased very recently.
Cindy and chuck have no other children and Chuck works offshore in the Gulf of Mexico with the oilfield industry.
Chuck was also hurt terribly when they lost P.J even though he was P.J.'s stepdad.
Ol' Bob
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Janet
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Username: Jan
Post Number: 350
Registered: 05-2003
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WOW...where do I start?? My comments were so long ago, that I forgot what they were about. But, I need to say that I have 'enjoyed' the chat between Rose, Kristen and Bob...You guys are the most wonderful caring people. Rose, congrats on your anniversary of your kidney, and I would love to have my house painted also~~~any time you like! But, if not, I at some point would love to hear about your painting...it sounds great. And my bathroom needs painted really badly. Kristen and Bob, wish you were here to kick me in the pants and get me off the couch too....but don't know if my old knees will hold up to much walking anway...so, when I get new knees, I too will be out walking. Thanks for sharing so much and thanks Kristen for sharing the dino with me....sounds like men are much alike in this journey also..
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Janet
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Username: Jan
Post Number: 351
Registered: 05-2003
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Bob, anytime that you want to share any of those photos...that is fine with me..I will try to explain them as you post them....I never have any luck posting pictures on this site...it always says that the files are too big, and I have no idea how to fix that.....
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Happy2Bhere
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Username: Happy2bhere
Post Number: 1822
Registered: 02-2008
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Janet, here's a cute pic of you that I have titled "Our Janet". 
"Professional Business Woman"
I have some pics of Alex's Granny Margot. Now, if only we had a pic of Sarah's Mom Kristen. How 'bout it, Kristen?
Ol' Bob
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Happy2Bhere
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Username: Happy2bhere
Post Number: 1823
Registered: 02-2008
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I'm certainly not bashful with my pics. 
This is back when I had dark hair and teeth. LOL
Ol' Bob
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Janet
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Username: Jan
Post Number: 359
Registered: 05-2003
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Oh my gosh.............look like a real 'professional'....LOL............that is about 4 years old, I think..........hopefully soon you will not be able to recognize me....I am still working at losing that weight...so I am down 80 lbs at this point.....and about 60 more to go.........I guess I will have to have a new 'professional' picture taken soon?? There is a newer one of me on the H&R Block website...see if you can find that one..LOL....if you go into Tax Pro finder....and look for me in York, PA, you should be able to find me....there is a newer picture of me on that website...good luck looking~~~
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Sarah's mom
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Username: Sarahs_mom
Post Number: 53
Registered: 02-2009
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I guess I didn't realize that Cindy didn't have any other children besides PJ. That makes grief even more complicated. One of my friends from compassionate friends also lost her only child, her son. Now she is facing so many issues that I don't have to....no grandchildren, etc.
Ok, I'll send a picture of when Sarah and I were happy and looking good back in 2004. This night was when she was accepted into the Junior National Honors Society...... (I don't look like this anymore, however!) Then I'll try to find a picture of me that's more recent
Sarahs mom, Kristen
Donor family
Florida, near Pensacola.
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Happy2Bhere
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Username: Happy2bhere
Post Number: 1825
Registered: 02-2008
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OMG !! Thanks for sharing this pic, Kristen. This is certainly a Mom/Daughter look-alike. You are both very lovely with those bright wide smiles. It's always nice to place a face to he ones' whom we correspond with. Thank you so very much for coming forward with this beautiful photo, lit'l lady.
QUESTION: Have you placed those walking shoes onto your footsies and walked awhile today ?? I told you that I was going to remind you from time to time. <smile>
God Bless....
Ol' Bob
P.S. Here's Alex's Granny Margo and her family there in Florida. Margot is the lovely lady wearing the peach colored dress in the center of pic. They were celebrating "Mother's Day". 
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rose
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Username: Rose
Post Number: 185
Registered: 07-2006
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Hi Kristin--Did you bake a cake yesterday? I had mine, maybe a bit too much, but what the hay, time to enjoy.
On that note, what are you going to do today to enjoy/take care of your self? If Bob and I keep after you, there will be no laying around in your p.j.s!!!
I am taking a break today as my hands are all stiff and sore. No one can scrub a floor like an old housewife. I have not done that in years and it looks super, if I say so myself.
Love and hugs,
rose
Californian with a kidney Tx from Oregon Clinic, March, 2006.
Eternal gratitude to my donor. She gave 5 organs.
a rose, is a rose, is a rose.....
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Happy2Bhere
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Username: Happy2bhere
Post Number: 1826
Registered: 02-2008
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I plan to try to explain a very amaziing heart transplant technique to all of you that many are not aware of. This referred to as a "Domino Heart Transplant", first performed in UK in 1987 on my young pal Andrew Wilson. http://www.transplantsunited.com/ Andrew actually met his heart donor Samantha Dawkins face-to-face post transplant. They can be seen in the pic visiting with very famous Fergie, Duchess of York and world famous heart surgeon Prof Sir Magdi Yacoub, there in England at Harefield Hospital. Andrew is sitting on this exercise bike with Samantha's original heart in his chest whilst she sits beside him. 
Andrew and Samantha shared many happy moments together after their very famous transplants, such as flying on the Concorde Airliner, being interviewed on BBC TV and enjoying visiting several parks similar to DisneyWorld. Regretfully, Samantha passed away shortly after her 15th birthday. This is Andrew's beautiful tribute to her:
Touched By An Angel
I guess there's something I can't explain
These thoughts play over, and over again
Was this an illusion or just my dying dream?
But I've always believed things aren't always what they seem.
I was touched by an angel
She reached out her hands to me,
I was touched by an angel and I swear
She healed me!
And now everything I see,
Feels so different, so different to me.
I was touched by an angel.
In my moment of despair,
I was touched by an angel,
And she whispered,
Said she'd always be there.
I was touched by an angel,
She reached out her arms to me,
I was touched by an angel,
And she whispered,
She loved me...
Written By Andrew Wilson (c)2005
My heart pal Andrew Wilson passed away July 7th 2005 there in London at the age of 27yrs old, due to unexpected heart ailments. I dearly miss him even today. I still stay in contact with his parents Bryan & Sue VIA emails and phone calls.
Ol' Bob
P.S. You might want to research the meaning of "Domino Heart Transplant". This is truly amazing.
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Hostess Risa
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Username: Risa
Post Number: 8356
Registered: 05-2003
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Nice meeting you Kristen Yes a Mother-daughter look alike! I am sure you are still just as beautiful as you are in this photo.
Granny Margo looks lovely with your family along with adorable Alex.
This thread is the most heartwarming thread I have ever read on this site.
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Happy2Bhere
Member
Username: Happy2bhere
Post Number: 1827
Registered: 02-2008
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"This thread is the most heartwarming thread I have ever read on this site."
I can say that I fully agree with you, sweet Risa.
Ol' Bob
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Sarah's mom
Member
Username: Sarahs_mom
Post Number: 54
Registered: 02-2009
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That is amazing about the Domino transplant. Just mind boggling.
Well, I won't lie to you guys. I haven't walked since that first time. Yesterday I had an especially heart wrenching, sad day. I told you I had been up to the High School for that scholarship meeting. It was a very difficult thing to do. So that counted for my walking steps yesterday. just walking into that school should count!
and today....we'll see. I am doing something to take care of myself even if I don't make the walk. I have my mammogram appt. So that counts for something too, in my book! Hey, I'll be off the couch! AND I'll have to shower before I go! So there!
Here is a recent picture of how I really look now. This was on Sarah's 18th birthday at the Middle School. We planted this weeping eucalyptus tree in her honor. That magnolia tree with bench is at the high school....this one middle school. Maybe next year we'll put one at the elementary.
This is my husband, Eddie. He has been with us since Sarah was four years old. He loved her very much. We are best friends with Sarah's dad. He lives an hour from here and always made the effort to spend time with Sarah and come to her events. We are still very close with all of his family. His mom is one of my very best friends. She's the one that makes the bears. I don't think I ever told you all....Sarah had a cousin that died at the age of 31. He died of the very same heart condition that little Alex had. Only it was undiagnosed and his death was a shock.
ok, I'll stop rambling......
The picture was too big,....I tried 5 different times to get it right...now you get small!
Sarahs mom, Kristen
Donor family
Florida, near Pensacola.
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Happy2Bhere
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Username: Happy2bhere
Post Number: 1828
Registered: 02-2008
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I made a attempt to increase the size of your pic. It might be a wee bit fuzzy, though. 
So happy that you can keep a good relation with Sarah's Dad and he was able to attend her various functions at school. Wonderful pic of you and Eddie.. Great lookin' couple, by golly.
I too am a stepdad to my oldest daughter Cindy but I love her as if she was mine biologically. She was just 29 days old when I married her Mom Ginger back in 1960. Cindy sittin' on my lap with a cute gesture with her fingers behind my head. My sister Bernice and my nephew Mike are included in pic attending a family fish-fry. 
She's truly a "Hoot", by golly.
Ol' Bob
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rose
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Username: Rose
Post Number: 186
Registered: 07-2006
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Yep, Kristin, getting the girls squished does count towards taking care of yourself. I read your memorial scholarship and was very touched and sure the young students who benefit will prosper in Sarah's honor. What a fitting legacy for her and you.
I cannot walk in your shoes for I have never been in the place you find yourself now, but, taking those counted steps seems like a move in the right direction. I have experienced the need to keep going forward even though there were things I did not wish to do. I found that just concentrating on one small task at a time helped me.
Did you have cake, yet?
love, rose
p.s. I am trying to get my picture on here, too, and will need some technical assistance from my husband later.
Californian with a kidney Tx from Oregon Clinic, March, 2006.
Eternal gratitude to my donor. She gave 5 organs.
a rose, is a rose, is a rose.....
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Sarah's mom
Member
Username: Sarahs_mom
Post Number: 57
Registered: 02-2009
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Nope, Rose....haven't gotten my cake yet! It sounds good though. Don't have the energy to make one. I'll get a mix next time I'm at the store. I'm so glad you had yours! Yep, I agree.....if I can just do one thing a day....then I think I'm doing good.
Yes, Please post a picture of yourself, Rose. You live in California....do you work? have kids? I'd like to hear about you......
Bob, I love the picture of Cindy on your lap. You guys look like you have a lot of fun.
xo
Sarahs mom, Kristen
Donor family
Florida, near Pensacola.
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Karen R.
Member
Username: Relivkaren
Post Number: 2653
Registered: 07-2007
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Sarah's Mom:
Thank you for sending a picture of yourself. I love the one with you and Sarah. The current one is a bit little, but that's okay. I just wanted to let you know that I have been reading all your posts between Bob and Janet. I haven't posted until now because I have no idea what to say except I am so sorry that you are hurting so much. I have no idea how you feel and I just pray that time will heal your hurting heart. Your Sarah was a very special girl. She will always be with you in your heart and memories. I am one of those waiting for my gift. I just want to thank you for giving so that others could live. That goes for all the donors on this site. I wish I could make all the hurt go away. I can't, but I can pray for you and let God help you through these rough days. Sounds like Bob, Janet, and Rose are keeping you motivated. That's good. I am glad that you have found some peace here. I will continue to read and pray for you.
God Bless!
Karen
Dx: BOOP - May 2006. Rediagnosed with Bronchiolitis Obliterans Nov. 2006
Listed Feb 2008 - Double Lung at Cleveland Clinic
Ohio, USA
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Karen R.
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Username: Relivkaren
Post Number: 2654
Registered: 07-2007
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Janet:
I love your picture! You do look professional. I am sure you are swamped right now. Just wanted to say hi and say thanks for all you do for this site. Your posts are always uplifting and helpful. You are a gem!!
God Bless!
Karen
Dx: BOOP - May 2006. Rediagnosed with Bronchiolitis Obliterans Nov. 2006
Listed Feb 2008 - Double Lung at Cleveland Clinic
Ohio, USA
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Happy2Bhere
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Username: Happy2bhere
Post Number: 1836
Registered: 02-2008
| | Posted on Thursday, March 05, 2009 - 10:39 pm: |
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"Bob, I love the picture of Cindy on your lap. You guys look like you have a lot of fun."
Kristen, in regards to my sweet daughter Cindy, she's 48yrs old and still loves her toys, such as that MoPed posted above. Her hubby Chuck works offshore in the Gulf of Mexico, out 1 month and back at home 1 month. They live alone out in the country in central Texas and Cindy spends much time alone whilst Chuck in out on the waters of the Gulf of Mexico. They own 28 acres with a beautiful brick home and also own 4 lake lots/with cabin & piers on the lakes' shores of Lake Limestone 28 miles down the road. They never had anymore children after P.J.'s death. She has always been a fun-lovin' lit'l lady. Her heart is as big as Montana and I love her dearly. I have 2 other daughters and 1 son, along with 9 grandkids. I also love them dearly. My son Ronnie lives just 5 miles from me. Ronnie spent 2 hitches in the US Army and is now a very responsible Dad/Husband. I am very proud of him. He is 47yrs old. Also attached a pic of Ronnie's youngest son Trent. Trent loves lit'l league baseball.
God has Blessed me with a wonderful life with beautiful children and St Peter continues to dust off my "Welcome Mat". This Blessing has motivated me to spend the remainder of my life offering my personal/spititual support to others such as yourself. You are a wonderful lit'l lady. I simply follow the path that God lays out for me.
Ol' Bob
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Janet
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Username: Jan
Post Number: 360
Registered: 05-2003
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Kristen...now I know where Sarah gets her beauty from!!! You are both beautiful young ladies...thank you so much for sharing a picture of the two of you together....and Bob, your little grandson is adorable too....reminds me so much of Joe with that baseball outfit and all.
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Janet
Member
Username: Jan
Post Number: 361
Registered: 05-2003
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Karen, Thank you so much for your kind words...I appreciate them very much. I try to 'be professional'....but mostly, I just love my job, and love what I do. I know that is hard for so many of you to imagine...but it is true....and it only lasts 3 1/2 months of the year....(well not exactly...but full time)....so I have more time to spend with my family. Just wish I had realized that before we lost Joe.....but, all I can do is try to change for the good in the future.
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Sarah's mom
Member
Username: Sarahs_mom
Post Number: 65
Registered: 02-2009
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Big News!
Guess who I just opened a letter from?????
Elizabeth and Alex!!!!
and 2 new pictures of Alex as well.
Tears are clouding my vision, so I will close for now.....It is so wonderful to receive this letter! I will read it over many, many times.
Margo, please thank Elizabeth for me....I will write her back soon. Tell her it made my day today.
Sarahs mom, Kristen
Donor family
Florida, near Pensacola.
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Happy2Bhere
Member
Username: Happy2bhere
Post Number: 1862
Registered: 02-2008
| | Posted on Sunday, March 08, 2009 - 06:08 pm: |
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Sarah's Mom,
I am absolutely thrilled that you have finally rec'd a letter from these fine folks. I know this tears at your heart somewhat, but I feel that your meeting face-to-face in the near future. I would love to be present at that first meeting. This wonderful meeting is inevitable, I'm sure. I am ecstatic about you receiving that letter from Liz & Alex.
Love ya'
Ol' Bob
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Janet
Member
Username: Jan
Post Number: 385
Registered: 05-2003
| | Posted on Sunday, March 08, 2009 - 10:49 pm: |
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A meeting of the families??? WHat a wonderful gift that would be to all involved....wish I could be there too!! Kristen, I am so 'happy' for you. I don't know if happy is the correct word for this situation...but I hope you know what I mean....love to all of you!!
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Sarah's mom
Member
Username: Sarahs_mom
Post Number: 66
Registered: 02-2009
| | Posted on Monday, March 09, 2009 - 12:21 pm: |
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I'm happy with the letter for now (This is the 2nd one from them).... a meeting? Well, that hasn't been brought up as of yet.....maybe one day we will get to that point. I'll just savor the letters and take it a day at a time.
Love you all.
xo
Sarahs mom, Kristen
Donor family
Florida, near Pensacola.
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