Hostess Risé
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Username: Rise
Post Number: 17668
Registered: 05-2003
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' Emotional Pain' written in 1992
People in pain can see pain, hear pain, deal with pain and hopefully withdraw from their pain. As we know there are so many different causes for pain.
Some people see pain as a challenge. Something they have to question, live with, fight for and against.
When suddenly something is beautiful and easy that is presented to a person in pain they will have a hard time accepting the good that they choose not to see.
They don't feel they deserve to be happy since the language of happiness was never learned for them.
For the person who was given beautiful things, had wonderful friendships, experienced happy times and had lots of love and
they experienced pain their thoughts become confused.
They can't understand why things can't go their way as they never experienced pain on a deep level.
So what do you tell the person who is in pain?
Ask them what do they want from the situation that is causing them pain?
Do they really know for sure that their current situation is actually causing them to hurt in the way that it seems to appear?
Sometimes people think that their current situation is true when in reality it is just fear that is causing you pain.
Ask them- What do they want to achieve by holding onto their pain, their hurt or lack of feeling loved?
If they have a clue as to what is causing them pain- tell them to look at their life and to decide what is true and what will not work for them.
Tell them to do their best to overcome their feelings of frustration and lack of support that seems to be causing them pain.
For any situation that your friend might be in-
you can suggest many things but only time will tell what action they will take to help themselves improve their current state to help to alleviate their pain.
Writing out their thoughts is a great way to look at your pain straight on whether it is physical or emotional pain.
Seek help- find a friend who will listen and understand you. Do your best not to hold onto the painful thoughts for long.
Look at your situation honestly and look if you can see the view
from a different perspective?
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