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Rocket Heart
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Username: Rocketheart583
Post Number: 407
Registered: 08-2007
| | Posted on Sunday, August 01, 2010 - 08:59 pm: | 
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Not related to anything medical - just one of those ol' man moments - My question is this: can you love someone without liking them?
Ponder if you will??????
Rocket Heart
Tom Emahiser
Waterville, Oh
Heart Failure
Heart Txplt 1/26/05 University of Michigan |
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ed
Member
Username: Ed2001
Post Number: 77
Registered: 03-2010
| | Posted on Sunday, August 01, 2010 - 09:20 pm: |
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Tom,
Is this a brain teaser? LOL!
On the serious note, I think it is possible. Though quite rare, I believe it happens.
My situation will be one rare example. My parents, ever since I got sick haven't really be nice to me. They view me as inferior and somewhat at a lower level when compared to others. They often degrade me, call me 'sick' and other names, tell me I can't do this and that because of who I am, tell me other people see me as inferior, are ashamed of having me around, ashamed of what I am, and so on. Basically, we don't speak much anymore.
So in short, they don't like me.
But still, they continue to sneak a peak at me to make every now and then to see if I'm ok. They do offer some helpful stuff every now and then, and when bad things happen, they stick with me. They do make sure to get their few minutes of anger release of course in the process, hehehe.
So although they may not like me, I still believe they do love me. Strange huh.
PS. Do I win anything for solving the riddle?
Kidney Transplant
April 2001 |
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eccoblue
Forum Leader
Username: Eccoblue
Post Number: 1547
Registered: 05-2008
| | Posted on Sunday, August 01, 2010 - 11:33 pm: |
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If you really care for someone, like a spouse or a family member, you can love them without having to be around them when you don't have anything in common or disagree about stuff. If you want to be around someone because you're compatible, then you would like them, but you don't have to love them. My mom drives me nuts sometimes because we think differently, but I still love her very much even though I don't necessarily like her. Maybe, it's more like not liking how someone is instead of not liking them personally. I think i just confused myself!
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Diane
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Username: Mary_diane
Post Number: 559
Registered: 02-2009
| | Posted on Monday, August 02, 2010 - 02:09 am: |
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Yes, I totally think it is possible.
Could be someone who has been in your life for a long time, who you continue to love, only now their behaviour does not fit for your values and ethics, so you may no longer like them on a face to face level, but in the bigger;picture you still love this person very much.
Diane
Liver Transplant Nov 20, 2008
Vancouver General, BC
“Sometimes our light goes out but is blown again into flame by an encounter with another human being. Each of us owes the deepest thanks to those who have rekindled this inner light.”
Albert Schweitzer
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WendyLaski
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Username: Wendylaski
Post Number: 112
Registered: 08-2009
| | Posted on Monday, August 02, 2010 - 07:21 am: |
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Yes! I had a HUGE fight with my mom last night, and I can tell you that I did not like her one bit at the time. Of course I still love her, though.
"Like" as a verb means "to take pleasure in."
"Love" as a verb means "to have affection for."
You can have affection for someone without taking pleasure in them at a particular time. I think that love is lasting, whereas like can depend on the situation.
Just my two cents,
Wendy 
Wendylaski
Diagnosed with Type 1 Diabetes at age 9
Kidney/Pancreas Transplant at age 31
Fourth of July, 2009, my Independence Day
Baylor University Medical Center
Dallas, Texas |
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Hostess Rise
Board Administrator
Username: Rise
Post Number: 13881
Registered: 05-2003
| | Posted on Monday, August 02, 2010 - 07:28 am: |
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WHAT A Fantastic Question!
Cystic Fibrosis- dx at 2yrs. -2nd double lung tx-05
Debra Fertel MD- Med. Dir. Lung Transplant/Pulmonary Hypertension Programs
Jackson Memorial Hospital
Si Pham MD, Professor of Surgery, Dir. of Thoracic Transplant & Artificial Heart Program-Miam Transplant Institute
Anas Hadeh MD, Cleveland Clinic, Weston, Florida
CF consultant- Critical Care and Sleep Medicine
Sharing Knowledge is an Invaluable Experience
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Rita
Forum Leader
Username: Rita
Post Number: 329
Registered: 06-2003
| | Posted on Monday, August 02, 2010 - 05:19 pm: |
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I have had and had people who I love in my life that are family that I love. I can tell you honestly they make me crazy ( you know they know how to push all your buttons from childhood). I can say I like them in small doses, but I love them and can not spend extended periods of time with them .
I can also tell you after 32 years of being married, there were days that I did not like my husband ( only maybe 5 in our times together), but I loved him those days. On those 5 days I didnt like the way he chewed his food, sat in a chair etc --lol. Some days you have to sit down and say Ok is it the world that is wrong or me. On those five days I decided it was me I didnt like.
Rita
Kidney Transplant 9/95
New York Hospital, NY
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DAP1122
Forum Leader
Username: Dap1122
Post Number: 1899
Registered: 05-2008
| | Posted on Monday, August 02, 2010 - 06:30 pm: |
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Is this a senior moment, Rocket? This is what I can look forward to when I hit Six-Oh later this year?
I think you can love someone, but not like them at various points. After I'm Six-Oh, I might have a different answer?
Take care, my friend!
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Rocket Heart
Member
Username: Rocketheart583
Post Number: 408
Registered: 08-2007
| | Posted on Monday, August 02, 2010 - 09:03 pm: |
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Big Don - me - senior moment??? Buddy that's all I seem to have!!! Good luck at the 60 thing - I am now on the down side of the 60's turning 66 this year - it just keeps gettin' better all the time.
All my best to you too!
Rocket Heart
Tom Emahiser
Waterville, Oh
Heart Failure
Heart Txplt 1/26/05 University of Michigan |
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Hostess Rise
Board Administrator
Username: Rise
Post Number: 14074
Registered: 05-2003
| | Posted on Wednesday, August 18, 2010 - 12:09 pm: |
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Hi all
I moved this thread because I felt it was important for this to be on this forum. This thread was on the welcome to transplantbuddies forum toward the bottom as it was no longer at the top.
Cystic Fibrosis- dx at 2yrs. -2nd double lung tx-05
Debra Fertel MD- Med. Dir. Lung Transplant/Pulmonary Hypertension Programs
Jackson Memorial Hospital
Si Pham MD, Professor of Surgery, Dir. of Thoracic Transplant & Artificial Heart Program-Miam Transplant Institute
Anas Hadeh MD, Cleveland Clinic, Weston, Florida
CF consultant- Critical Care and Sleep Medicine
Sharing Knowledge is an Invaluable Experience
Transplant Friends & Chat
Questions- Contact Hostess Rise' |
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BreathinSteven
Forum Leader
Username: Breathinsteven
Post Number: 2137
Registered: 11-2004
| | Posted on Thursday, August 19, 2010 - 10:56 am: |
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I guess we're probably dealing in semantics here -- the meanings of either or both words can be so easily intertwined... When we were younger -- "like" meant like -- and sometimes "love" meant really-really-really-like-a-whole-lot... To some of us -- "love" is just a much stronger version of "like"...
I once heard an interesting little definition -- that the opposite of "love" is not "hate" -- the opposite of "love" is "indifference"... It kinda made sense to me because if you love something or someone, you care deeply about it or them -- but if you're indifferent, you just don't care... And circling around that definition -- "hate" seems to oppose "like" -- it seems to be a stronger form of dislike...
And like Kelli, Rita and Wendy pointed out -- there are certain people we will always love in our lives, but from time to time they will pi$$ us off and we may not like them, or like their actions at a particular moment, but that may not change our underlying love for them... (Unless it happens a bit too often!!!)
But again -- much of it is probably semantics -- games we're playing with words and their meanings... And we're always better off being loved or liked than being disliked, hated, ignored or having someone feel indifferent about you... It makes me think of a bunch of pre-teen girls sitting in a circle discussing their latest crushes: "Do you like him? Or do you like-him-like-him? Do you love him? Or do you lurve him???"
Love, Steve
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Hostess Rise
Board Administrator
Username: Rise
Post Number: 14652
Registered: 05-2003
| | Posted on Friday, October 15, 2010 - 11:26 am: |
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Just had a passing thought. I know this is not grammatically correct so here goes....
"Relaxation is a great friend to have" I am sure you all understand this concept.
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BRAVEHEART
Member
Username: Sheila_spafford
Post Number: 491
Registered: 02-2008
| | Posted on Wednesday, October 27, 2010 - 10:41 pm: |
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My mother always told us you can love someone, but there no rule says you have to like them.
Sheila
Kidney Transplant
Augusr 11, 2007
Fort Worth, Texas |
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blackrosegul
Member
Username: Blackrosegul
Post Number: 1
Registered: 01-2015
| | Posted on Friday, January 09, 2015 - 01:47 pm: |
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Buddy that's all I seem to have!!! Good luck at the 60 thing - I am now on the down side of the 60's turning 66 this year - it just keeps gettin' better all the time.
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